Can Talking to AI Change Your Personality?

A weird thing happens when you spend a lot of time with someone: you start picking up their vibes. You might steal a friend’s catchphrase or find yourself adopting your partner’s specific way of over-explaining things. It’s called mirroring—the subconscious imitation of another person’s speech patterns, gestures, posture or attitude. As the popular adage says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

But today, we aren't just interacting with people. In the US, over a quarter of adults (27%) now interact with artificial intelligence several times a day. 

We already know that AI can clone your personality, in the sense that it can identify and mimic your personality traits after a shockingly small amount of interaction with you. But what about the other way round? If you spend enough time talking to an AI like ChatGPT, do you eventually start mirroring its tone, values and “personality” in return?

Let’s see what research says. 

Can AI Train You To Be More Conscientious? 

While you can fine-tune your AI bot’s “voice” to some degree, its core behavior remains highly structured and formulaic. In Big Five terms, that looks a lot like high Conscientiousness: being organized, disciplined and goal‑focused instead of loose and spontaneous. So, in theory, talking to and mirroring an AI could make you a bit more Conscientious over time.

According to a recent study, prompting AI chatbots can indeed train your brain to think in the way Conscientious people think. The authors argue that because prompting requires you to decompose a problem (break it into parts) and design step‑by‑step instructions to reach that end goal, you are essentially doing a human version of computational thinking. Over time, this kind of prompting creates what they call “germane cognitive load,” the type of mental effort that helps you build new, lasting mental schemas, so your brain gets better at structured, goal‑oriented thinking.

However, just because AI can make you better at methodical thinking does not mean you will become a more Conscientious person across the board. So far, there is no evidence that the ability to think in a more methodical way has a carry‑over effect beyond the AI chat window. And Truity’s research on attitudes toward AI shows that people who score high in Conscientiousness are already AI super‑users, the ones most drawn to interacting with AI in the first place. So we end up with a chicken‑and‑egg situation: is AI shaping users’ thinking styles, or selecting for people who already think that way?

Verdict: Prompting an AI bot may sharpen your structured, methodical, systematic thinking, but current evidence suggests it is more a magnet for people who are already Conscientious than a reliable way to boost Conscientiousness in everyone else.

Can AI Make You More Introverted Or Extraverted?

Probably not in any deep, lasting trait sense. But it may reinforce the social style you already prefer by making certain kinds of interaction easier and more rewarding than others.

For example, Gen Z is using AI more than any other generation, and not just to crank out homework or polish resumes. Recent data shows that one in four young adults believe AI could eventually replace real-life relationships, and a growing minority are already open to having an AI “friend” or romantic partner. That doesn’t prove anything about personalities, but it does suggest that some users are increasingly comfortable with low-friction, always-available social substitutes.

That is where Introversion and Extraversion come in. If AI feels easier than human conversation, it may appeal more to people who already prefer quieter, lower-pressure interaction. Some studies suggest that Introverts hold more positive attitudes toward AI and may use it more because it offers quality interaction without the usual “people drain.”

But from what we know from research so far, it’s complicated. Other studies—including Truity’s data —found that Extraverts have more favorable attitudes toward AI, perhaps because it provides the rapid back-and-forth, constant responsiveness and high engagement that Extraverts seek. In other words, AI may not be creating Introverts or Extraverts, but it may be amplifying the social habits that already define them. So the more likely effect is not personality change, but personality expression: AI can act like a mirror, making your existing social style more obvious in daily life. 

Verdict: AI probably will not turn Introverts into Extraverts or vice versa, but it may strengthen the way each type prefers to connect with the world.

Does Talking to AI Train You to Be More or Less Agreeable?

In real-world relationships, we constantly deal with social friction—the disagreements, awkward silences, interruptions and general drama that comes with being human. Talking to AI bypasses all of that, because AI chatbots are programmed to be sycophantic. In the Big Five, people-pleasing and affirming behaviors are generally signs of extreme Agreeableness. Safe to say that if an AI took a personality test, it would score very highly on this trait.

What’s interesting is that users, even superusers, do not seem to mirror that level of Agreeableness very much. In fact, they may do the opposite. Some experts argue that repeated exposure to such flattering, low-friction conversation may train us to expect “conflict-free” interactions in real life, which could make ordinary human conversation feel more annoying or less tolerable by comparison. So it may be that AI trains us to become less Agreeable and accepting of the give-and-take that real-world relationships require.

Verdict: AI may not make us any more or less Agreeable in a deep personality sense, but it could lower our patience for messy human interaction.

Can Talking to AI Make You More Curious?

In theory, people who score highly in the Big Five trait of Openness should love AI because it's a new tech to play with, and Open people are naturally curious. And we might hypothesize that, because AI makes it so easy to ask questions, examine ideas and ask “what else can this do?” it may also encourage more exploratory behavior over time.

Some research supports that idea. Studies suggest that AI can create a curiosity loop, where the lower cost of asking questions makes people more likely to keep exploring, which could nudge them toward more open and inquisitive behavior. That said, there is a paradox here: the more Open you are in Big Five terms, the more skeptical you may also be of AI, according to Truity’s data. So while AI may appeal to curiosity, it does not automatically mean it increases Openness as a stable personality trait.

If we consider what could be happening here, there’s an argument that AI can make exploration faster and more efficient, but it can also crowd out the slow, wandering, associative thinking that often feeds creativity. If people can get instant answers too easily, they may do less of the reflecting and following tangents that broaden the mind. So the effect may be double-edged: AI can lower the barrier to curiosity, but it is not yet clear whether that becomes deeper Openness or just quicker information access.

Verdict: AI may encourage more curious, exploratory behavior, but it is still unclear whether that translates into a lasting boost in Openness.

Can AI Increase Your Neuroticism?

By definition, people high in Neuroticism are more sensitive to uncertainty, threat and negative outcomes, which means the rise of AI is likely to feel more stressful to them than to most other people. That probably explains why Neurotic individuals tend to be the most cautious about adopting AI in the first place, according to Truity’s study.

But the question we’re interested in is whether AI can actually change your personality over time. Could talking to AI make people more or less Neurotic?

The answer, interestingly, may be a little of both, depending on the context. AI can certainly trigger situational anxiety. If you are already worried about the future, say, about your career becoming obsolete, AI may intensify that worry in the moment. That is a real effect, but it is better understood as a temporary spike in anxiety than as a change in baseline Neuroticism.

At the same time, the available evidence points in the opposite direction for many users. When used for mental health purposes, as a therapy tool, AI chatbots can help reduce distress and anxiety scores in some participants. So while AI may not make anyone less Neurotic as a trait, it can help some people manage Neurotic feelings when they come up.

Verdict: AI is more likely to amplify existing worries in the moment than to change Neuroticism itself, but in supportive contexts it may also help reduce anxiety and calm people down.

Final Words

While talking to AI will not fundamentally change our core personality traits, it may still shape the way we think and interact in small but noticeable ways. Most notably, prompting AI can encourage more methodical thinking, while other effects seem to run in the opposite direction, with personality traits influencing how likely people are to use AI in the first place.

That said, we should not ignore the subtler shifts in our attitudes. AI may influence what kind of conversations we find easy, useful or satisfying, and over time that could affect our expectations for interaction more broadly. For some people, it may make the bumps and compromises of talking to people feel more awkward; for others, it may simply become another tool that fits naturally into the way they already think and work.

Ultimately, AI may be less likely to rewrite our personalities than to reflect and reinforce them in small ways. The more interesting question is not whether it changes who we are, but how it shapes the habits, assumptions and interaction styles we bring to other people.