How Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type Shows Love (Without Saying “I Love You”)

Some people send long, heartfelt texts that could double as wedding vows. Others quietly fix your Wi-Fi and refill your coffee without saying a word. Both are saying “I love you,” just in completely different dialects.

Every personality type has its own way of showing affection, and it’s not always about saying those three little words. Sometimes it’s about doing it in a way that makes sense to them. Some types cook for you, some listen for hours, and some just… rearrange your entire schedule because they care.

A lot of this has to do with something called cognitive functions. These are the “mental muscles” behind how we see the world and make decisions. Each of us has a dominant function that runs the show (the one we rely on the most) and an auxiliary function that plays backup. You could think of the dominant as the captain of the ship and the auxiliary as the trusted first mate. It keeps the ship balanced, grounded and heading somewhere meaningful.

And when it comes to love? That auxiliary function is where the magic usually happens.

The dominant function shows what we focus on in life, but the auxiliary shows how we connect. It’s the part of us that nurtures, protects and supports the people who matter most. As Mark Hunziker writes in Depth Typology: The Guide Map to Becoming Who We Are, “Recognizing this archetype’s energy signature is usually a simple matter of noticing supportive, nurturing, positive-enabling, and protective behavior.”

That’s the energy we’re looking for, the little (and not-so-little) ways each personality type shows up for others. The ways they say “you matter” without ever needing the words.

So whether you’re trying to figure out why your INTJ partner keeps sending you PDFs instead of hugs, or why your ENFP friend won’t stop planning “spontaneous adventures,” this is for you.

INTJ – The Strategic Protector

INTJs show love the way NASA launches rockets: quietly, precisely, and with a small chance of emotional explosion if you interrupt them mid-process. They don’t say “I love you” so much as “I analyzed every possible future in which you could get hurt, and I’ve eliminated 97% of them. You’re welcome.” Their affection lives in spreadsheets, contingency plans and the way they remember the exact date you mentioned your tire pressure was low.

Their love language is usually competence.

The INTJ’s intuition is like a telescope aimed at your life, scanning for patterns, weak points and the weird little fault lines no one else notices. Their thinking function is the toolbox they crack open after the scan. Translation: I saw the future trying to eat you, so I built a system where that can’t happen. It’s romantic in the way seatbelts are romantic: not flashy, but you miss them exactly once.

This is why an INTJ’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “I set up auto-pay so you’ll never get that late fee again.”
  • “Here’s a three-step plan for sleeping more and doomscrolling less.”
  • “I moved your dentist appointment to a Tuesday because your cortisol spikes on Mondays.”

Deadpan. Unfussy. Weirdly comforting.

And yes, this is the auxiliary function at work, the part that gives their care structure and motion. The INTJ’s intuition notices you burn out every six weeks; their Extraverted Thinking function builds a calendar that prevents week seven from ever arriving. Their intuition senses you’re dating a charming disaster, their thinking function drafts a boundary script and a rideshare escape route.

It’s the practical, protective, “I got you” energy Mark Hunziker points to when he says love looks like “supportive, nurturing, positive-enabling, and protective behavior.”

Real life looks like this:

  • They remember you hate being cold and stash a blanket in their car, your car, and somehow the restaurant’s coat closet (don’t ask).
  • They label your shared budget in a way that makes impulse purchases feel like arguing with math.
  • They pre-download maps for a trip “in case service dies,” which, of course, it does, right after you’ve declared you “like to vibe.”

INFJ – The Soul Cartographer

INFJs want to understand you — not the small talk version, but the deep-in-the-bones, “what haunts you at 2 a.m.” version. Their intuition zooms in on hidden meanings, patterns and emotional subtext. Their feeling side follows right behind, translating all that quiet insight into acts of warmth, caretaking and emotional calibration.

Love, for an INFJ, is a process of tuning to your frequency and keeping it in harmony.

They’ll notice when your smile is one millimeter shorter than usual. They’ll sense when you’re pretending you’re fine but your energy has dropped 10%. You won’t even know how they knew, but they’ll hand you tea, ask about your sleep, and you’ll suddenly feel like crying because someone saw you.

It’s that feeling side at work, the part Mark Hunziker described as “supportive, nurturing, positive-enabling, and protective.” Except with INFJs, it’s also laced with a strange psychic precision that makes you wonder if they’ve been reading your diary.

Real-life translations of “I love you” from an INFJ might sound like:

  • “I made you a playlist that matches how your week’s been going.”
  • “You seemed quiet earlier, do you want to talk or just sit near me?”
  • “Let’s watch a movie together” (and it just happens to be exactly the ‘pick-me-up’ you need for your specific circumstance.”

They love by connecting to you, relating to you, and making you feel like your feelings deeply matter to them. They’ll empathize, validate, talk you out of catastrophizing, and still apologize if they think they “talked too much.”

INFJ affection seeps into everything: your environment, your plans, the way you talk to yourself. It’s subtle, but it changes you.

ENTJ – The Devoted Commander

ENTJs don’t say “I love you” so much as “I optimized your life while you were sleeping.”

Their love language is efficiency with purpose.

Dominant Te (Extraverted Thinking) is the commander in the ENTJ brain. It sees a problem and immediately mobilizes a solution. Auxiliary Ni (Introverted Intuition) is the strategist in the war room. It connects every decision to a larger vision of how things could be. Translation: I saw your potential, so I built you an empire and a five-year plan. It’s romantic in the way power tools are romantic: loud, a little dangerous, but deeply useful if you know what you’re doing.

This is why an ENTJ’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “I booked your flight and handled the check-in.”
  • “You said you wanted to start that project, so I cleared your schedule.”
  • “I called your doctor because I knew you wouldn’t.”
     

Assertive. Goal-oriented. Weirdly hot if you like being taken seriously.

When ENTJs love you, their natural wiring steps in to make it obvious. At least it’s obvious to them. Their thinking side wants to fix your world, and their intuition wants to make sure it means something. They see your future self — the confident, self-actualized version — and they can’t rest until that person exists in real life.

Real life looks like this:

  • They remind you of your goals when you’re doubting yourself, but somehow it feels inspiring, not bossy.
  • They’ll defend your reputation.
  • They secretly keep track of your wins because remembering them matters more than they’ll admit.
  • They won’t always say, “I’m proud of you,” but they’ll reference your progress in casual conversation.

ENTJs want to make your life unstoppable. And if they ever hand you a revised version of your dream with the words “I streamlined it for you”? think of it as affection with a business plan.

ENFJ – The Insightful Mentor

I always feel like when ENFJs love you, it’s like getting a hug from a psychic teddy bear. It’s gentle, warm and weirdly insightful to your specific emotional needs.

Their love language is guided transformation.

The ENFJ’s feeling side makes them tuned in to every nuance of someone else’s mood. Their intuition takes those emotional readings and gives them weight. It sees why you’re struggling, where you’re heading, and how to guide you toward something better. Translation: I saw your soul limping, so I built a ramp.

This is why an ENFJ’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “You’re more capable than the version of you that doubt built.”
  • “You keep giving yourself small lives when you were made for something vast.”
  • “I just need you to see what I already see.”

The ENFJ’s feeling side gives them the impulse to help. Intuition gives that help a sense of destiny. They look at your pain and don’t just ask how to ease it, but what it’s trying to teach you.

Real life looks like this:

  • They sense you’re on the edge of giving up and drop one sentence that somehow reorients your entire future.
  • They turn ordinary conversations into existential therapy without meaning to.
  • They remind you of your dreams when you’re ready to settle for less.

ENFJs hold you close, but they’re also pointing toward the horizon, whispering, “There’s more for you than this.”

If they ever say, “I just want to help you believe in yourself again,” that’s their “I love you.”

ISTJ – The Steady Provider

The ISTJ love language is reliability paired with problem-solving.

Their dominant function, Si (Introverted Sensing) roots them in what’s familiar, real and proven. They remember how things work: what’s safe, what lasts, what made life smoother the last time someone tried something dumb and broke it. Auxiliary Te (Extraverted Thinking) is how they show care: it steps in to make sure everything runs a little better. Translation: I saw a problem, and I fixed it before you tripped over it.

This is why an ISTJ’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “I went ahead and took your car in for an oil change.”
  • “Your budget spreadsheet had an error, but I fixed the formulas.”
  • “You were out of lightbulbs, so I bought extras. They were on sale.”

Unflashy. Functional. Quietly taking responsibility without the fanfare. 

Love, to an ISTJ, means making sure the world around you holds steady — bills paid, tires inflated, coffee stocked. It’s a quiet devotion that rarely announces itself, but it’s always there, quietly checking expiration dates and account balances.

When ISTJs love you, their thinking side becomes your safety net. They notice where you’re struggling and step in like it’s just another task on their list, but make no mistake, it’s personal. That’s how they say you matter.

Real life looks like this:

  • My father-in-law noticed my baking pans were warped and worn, so he just showed up one day with new ones.
  • When my husband was in college and wrestling with money, his dad helped him build a budget and taught him how to manage it and build good credit.
  • The ISTJ in your life will fix your leaky faucet, make sure your insurance actually covers something, and check your tires before winter because “that’s what you do for family.”

ISFJ – The Gentle Anchor

For many ISFJs I’ve known, saying I love you looks like, “I made your favorite meal because you had a long day.”

Their love language is comfort through consistency.

ISFJs notice what brings you peace: how you take your coffee, what jokes actually make you laugh, the exact sound your “I’m fine” makes when you’re absolutely not. Their feeling side turns that awareness into warmth. It reaches out, relates and reassures. Translation: I see you’re struggling, and I want to make the world softer until you can stand up again.

This is why an ISFJ’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “You’ve been quiet lately — want to talk or just sit together?”
  • “You’re not a burden, you’re just human.”
  • “When I went through something like that, I felt the same way.”

Their love is grounded and steady. If an ISFJ loves you, you’ll notice your life quietly becoming more bearable. There’s a blanket when you’re cold, a text when you’re low, a story about their own screwups so you stop feeling like a failure.

I once told my ISFJ mom that I was craving fruit loops (I was 5 months pregnant at the time) and she went to the store and bought five boxes of fruit loops. ISFJs notice like that.

The ISFJ’s feeling side listens for emotional dissonance and responds with understanding instead of advice. Rather than trying to “fix” you, they try to make sure you know you’re not alone.

Real life looks like this:

  • They show up when everyone else gets uncomfortable and leaves.
  • They remember your deadlines and send encouragement at 10 p.m. because they know you’ll still be working.
  • They make you tea and tell you about the time they fell apart so that you feel less alone.
  • They keep listening even when you start repeating yourself, because they know healing is often circular.

If they ever say, “You don’t have to pretend with me,” that’s their “I love you.” And they mean it.

ESTJ – The Steady Builder

ESTJs don’t say “I love you.” They say, “I made a plan so your life stops falling apart.”

Their love language is creating certainty in an uncertain world.

The ENTJ’s thinking side sees what’s inefficient, messy or inconsistent and immediately starts drafting solutions. Meanwhile, their sensing side adds history, steadiness and a touch of nostalgia to their pragmatism. It remembers what’s worked, what’s safe, and what feels like home. Translation: I care about you, so I built a schedule, balanced the budget, and made dinner the same way you liked it last week.

This is why an ESTJ’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “I paid that bill before it was due.”
  • “We should keep this tradition. It’s good for the kids.”
  • “You’re stressed. I handled it.”

They show love by creating stability you can rely on. When they care about you, they want life to make sense in a safe, predictable, I’ve-got-you-covered kind of way.

For an ESTJ, love is about taking responsibility. They believe in showing up, following through, and keeping promises even when they’re tired. It’s less about sweet words and more about consistent presence — showing you they’re in this, day after day.

Real life looks like this:

  • They double-check your car before a long drive and fill the gas tank.
  • They make sure family dinners keep happening even when everyone’s busy.
  • They’ll fix things you didn’t even know were broken, both physical and logistical.
  • They’ll tell stories about “how we handled it back then,” in order to pass on age-old wisdom.

Their love is rooted in continuity. They care by connecting the present to something trustworthy: a method, a memory, a tradition that has proven itself. When the world gets chaotic, their instinct is to anchor you with reliability.

And if they pull out a family recipe, retell a story you’ve heard a hundred times, or insist on doing something “the right way,” know this — it’s devotion wearing a hard hat.

ESFJ – The Heart Keeper

ESFJs are the kind of people who will notice you like a particular candle and then go out and buy you a half-dozen of those candles as a “just because” gift.

Their love language is dependability with attentiveness.

The ESFJ’s Extraverted Feeling (Fe) function runs the show. It reads the room, picking up on every shift in tone and every flicker of emotion. But their Introverted Sensing (Si) function is what makes their love tangible. It remembers what matters to you: the small details, the little rituals, the exact way you like your world to feel. Translation: I noticed what made you happy once, so I built a routine around it.

This is why an ESFJ’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “I made your lunch the way you like it, with extra pickles.”
  • “Don’t worry, I already RSVPed for both of us.”
  • “You mentioned liking that movie once, so I bought the collector’s edition.”

Their sensing function gives their love roots. It connects affection to the familiar: the same dinner you loved as a kid, the family traditions that make holidays feel right, the quiet gestures that say I remember who you are. When they care about you, they turn that memory into consistency. They show up. They repeat what works. They keep life predictable in a way that feels safe instead of dull.

Real life looks like this:

  • They keep track of everyone’s birthdays (and anniversaries, and milestones, and probably your dog’s adoption date).
  • They cook your comfort meal without asking because they can tell you’ve had one of those days.
  • They plan gatherings to make sure no one drifts too far away.
  • They pass on old family wisdom: what helped, what healed, what still holds true.

The ESFJ’s sensing side is how they stabilize love. They build connection through routine, care through reliability, and intimacy through shared history. Their affection is familiar, like a favorite blanket that somehow still smells like home.

INTP – The Possibility Whisperer

Instead of “I love you,” an INTP might say, “Have you ever considered that your entire self-concept might be a social construct?”

Their love language is expanding your mind until it hurts a little.

The INTP’s thinking function builds logic trees, mental blueprints and elaborate inner maps of how things should make sense. But it’s their intuition that takes those blueprints and lights them on fire (lovingly) just to see what could be rebuilt from the ashes. It opens doors you didn’t know existed. Translation: I love you enough to ruin your current worldview so you can build a better one.

This is why an INTP’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “You’re not wrong, but have you considered this alternate timeline where you are?”
  • “I found a theory that perfectly explains your childhood trauma. Want to talk about it?”

It’s affection by way of brainwave. Their intuition shows love by inviting you into the abstract, by helping you see the magic behind the mundane. When they care about you, they start connecting dots out loud. They toss you half-baked hypotheses like breadcrumbs, daring you to follow the trail. They want you to see what they see: that the future is huge and full of open tabs.

Real life looks like this:

  • They send you articles about things you didn’t know you needed to obsess over.
  • They stay up till 3 a.m. helping you troubleshoot your career, your art, or your existential crisis — sometimes all at once.
  • They remind you that your story isn’t fixed, it’s just draft one.
  • They introduce you to new ideas and new worlds, because stagnation feels like death and love means keeping you alive in all the best ways.

The INTP’s intuition is all about paradigm shifts. It sees who you are and gently holds space for the dozens of versions you could still become.

If they ever say, “You’ve got more potential than you realize,” that’s their “I love you.” And they mean it. They’ve already mapped 20 possible futures where you prove them right.

INFP – The Soul Haven

For the INFP, love is about helping you find yourself again.

The INFP’s Introverted Feeling (Fi) function is the inner compass that hums, “Stay true to what matters.” But their Extraverted Intuition is what throws open the windows. It spots what’s possible in you, the hidden beauty, the spark you’ve buried under obligation and self-doubt. Translation: I saw who you could be, and I’m not leaving until you see it too.

This is why an INFP’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “You deserve a life that feels like yours.”
  • “You’re not broken, you’re just becoming.”
  • “That dream you keep talking yourself out of? It’s still waiting for you.”

Their intuition shows love by pointing toward meaning, like a lantern swinging in the fog, catching flashes of what’s true, what’s next, what’s possible. But their feeling function anchors it. It says: You don’t have to earn love by being impressive. You’re already enough.

When an INFP loves you, they’ll remind you what you used to believe in before the world told you to be sensible. They’ll see potential in you and they’ll fight anyone — including you — who tries to bury it.

Real life looks like this:

  • They send you poems when you’ve forgotten you’re poetic.
  • They champion your art, your weirdness, your sensitivity, the things you’ve learned to hide.
  • They’ll stay up late listening to your tangled thoughts, then say something that untangles your soul.
  • They remind you that growth doesn’t have to be loud or linear, sometimes it’s just breathing and trying again tomorrow.

The INFP’s intuition gives love its wings, their feeling gives it roots. Together, they build a home inside your chest, one where you’re allowed to be messy, idealistic, and still worthy of good things.

ENTP – The Chaos Mechanic

ENTPs don’t say “I love you.” They say, “Okay, but have you considered that your entire emotional breakdown is just bad data?”

Their love language is clarity through curiosity.

The ENTP’s intuition scans the world like an over-caffeinated detective: everything’s a clue, everything’s connected, and you, apparently, are their favorite mystery. Their Introverted Thinking function steps in with a wrench and a grin, eager to take apart your logic and put it back together better. Translation: I love you enough to debug your brain.

This is why an ENTP’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “You’re laboring under a misapprehension. Want me to argue you out of it?”
  • “You don’t actually hate your job, you hate inefficiency.”
  • “I reverse-engineered your childhood coping mechanisms and, honestly, impressive work.”

Their thinking shows love by bringing order to chaos: not through a bunch of rules (blech), but through sharp, insightful questions that slice through the noise. When they care about you, they want to understand you completely: how you think, what drives you, where the logic breaks down.

Real life looks like this:

  • They help you untangle a problem you didn’t even realize could be solved.
  • They notice your blind spots and tease you about them until you laugh (and secretly grow).
  • They challenge your beliefs, not to be cruel, but because they think you’re smart enough to handle the truth.
  • They remember your theories, your fears, your throwaway “I don’t know why I do that” — and they’ll help you figure out exactly why.

The ENTP’s thinking function says, “Let me make sense of your chaos so you can breathe again.” Their intuition says, “And while we’re at it, let’s imagine 10 better ways forward.”

ENFP – The Freedom Giver

I have an ENFP friend whose love shows up as fearless authenticity. She’s so unapologetically herself that everyone around her finally feels free to breathe and be real. When you feel small, embarrassed or ashamed, she says “I get it, let me tell you a story…” and all the sudden you’re laughing and crying at the same time, but feeling far less alone.

Their love language is no-apology permission to be yourself.

The ENFP’s intuition scans the world, seeing all the potential paths you could take, all the colors you could become. Their feeling is the heartbeat behind it. It beckons, “You are allowed to exist exactly as you are.” Translation: I love you, and I’m going to keep being my weird, unfiltered self until you feel safe enough to do the same.

This is why an ENFP’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “I can’t wait to see what you do next.”
  • “You don’t have to tone yourself down for anyone.”
  • “You’re not too much, everyone else is just under-stimulated.”

Their authenticity is contagious. When they care about you, they’ll make emotional space so wide you could build a small planet in it. They’ll embarrass themselves first, on purpose, just to show you it’s safe to be real. You’ll watch them trip over their own enthusiasm and think, God, maybe I don’t have to keep my armor on either.

Real life looks like this:

  • They hype you up so sincerely you start believing it.
  • They turn your self-doubt into a pep talk worthy of a movie montage.
  • They share the cringiest parts of themselves to prove that vulnerability isn’t fatal.
  • They see potential in you like it’s their religion, and they’ll evangelize it until you start living it.

The ENFP’s intuition says, “There are infinite versions of you.” Their feeling says, “And I love all of them.” If they ever say, “You don’t have to pretend with me,” that’s their “I love you.”

ISTP – The Grounded Adventurer

For ISTPs, love isn’t about effusive words and affirmations, it’s about doing something that actually fixes the problem. Their love language is action without announcement.

The ISTP’s thinking function figures out how things work, their sensing function makes sure you actually feel it. They show love by pulling you out of your head and into the moment, by reminding you that life’s meant to be experienced, not theorized. Translation: I love you, so I’m going to make sure you touch the sky at least once.

This is why an ISTP’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “You’ve been stressed. Let’s go for a drive.”
  • “You have to see this view. No, get up, we’re going.”
  • “I fixed your sink. You’re welcome.”

They don’t do sentimentality for its own sake; they do real. Their affection is pragmatic, physical, and rooted in the now. When they care about you, they want you to feel alive — wind in your face, adrenaline in your veins, proof that you still exist outside your own thoughts.

Real life looks like this:

  • They teach you how to do something useful instead of just talking about it.
  • They pull you into an adventure when you’ve forgotten what fun feels like.
  • They keep you safe while you’re out of your comfort zone, but don’t make a big deal about it.
  • They make sure your life actually works: the lights turn on, the brakes don’t squeal, the chaos is handled.

Their sensing side says, “Come back to earth.” Their thinking side says, “Let me make it better while you’re here.” Together, they turn love into a kind of calm, wordless competence, the kind that holds things steady when everything else starts to slip.

If they ever say, “You’ve gotta see this,” that’s their “I love you.” And they mean it, because they know life’s too short not to feel it with your whole body.

ISFP – The Tender Rebel

For ISFPs, talk is cheap. They want you to feel their love in a visceral, sensory way.

Their love language is presence with meaning.

The ISFP’s Introverted Feeling function tunes into what’s real inside them: what feels genuine, what feels alive. Their Extraverted Sensing function brings that inner truth into the physical world. Translation: I love you, so I want you to feel how beautiful it is to exist right here, right now.

This is why an ISFP’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “I made this for you.”
  • “You have to hear this song, it’s exactly what I meant but couldn’t say.”
  • “Let’s watch the sunrise together on that mountaintop we both love.”

They show love through small sensory sanctuaries: the way they light candles, the playlist they build for your mood, the perfect bite of food handed to you mid-conversation. When they care about you, they want your world to feel captivating.

Real life looks like this:

  • They remember what colors calm you down and paint your space with them.
  • They’ll make art or music that captures what you can’t articulate.
  • They pull you into the moment — a sunset, a slow dance, a shared silence — until your heartbeat steadies.
  • They make space to be fully present with you, listening without distraction to what’s on your heart.

The ISFP’s feeling says, “Let me create space for you to be fully yourself.” Their sensing says, “Let me show you why it matters here, now, in this exact light.” Together, they turn love into something tactile, art you can touch, warmth you can feel, truth you can see.

ESTP – The Real-World Problem-Solver

I’m married to an ESTP so I’m intimately familiar with their love language. While they might actually say “I love you,” they’re more likely to show it by saying, “You’re overcomplicating this — hang on, I’ll show you.”

Their love language is clarity with motion.

The ESTP’s sensing side keeps them wired into the moment and what’s real, what’s happening, what can be done right now. Their thinking side sharpens that instinct into solutions. Translation: I love you, so I’m going to slice through your mental fog and give you the facts.

This is why an ESTP’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “You’re not stuck, you just need to make the call.”
  • “Here’s how to fix it, and yes, it’s that simple.”
  • “Stop overthinking and come outside with me.”

Their affection comes with clear-eyed solutions, blunt honesty, and a plan that actually works. When they care about you, they won’t let you drown in vague worries or circular logic. They’ll pull you out, set your feet on the ground, and hand you the wrench.

Real life looks like this:

  • They help you untangle a mess of decisions until the answer feels obvious.
  • They point out when your self-doubt doesn’t line up with the facts.
  • They pull you away from your stress spiral with something physical like a hike, a drive, a dance.
  • They fix things you didn’t even realize were broken because inefficiency personally offends them.

Their thinking side says, “Let me make this make sense.” Their sensing side says, “And let’s do it while eating pizza with all the toppings.”

For ESTPs, they believe that momentum and mental clarity heal better than words ever could.

ESFP – The Joy Conduit

ESFPs don’t say “I love you.” They say, “Get in, we’re chasing the sunset.”

Their love language is freedom with warmth.

The ESFP’s feeling side runs on sincerity — a deep, inner conviction that real connection only happens when everyone’s allowed to be exactly who they are. Their sensing side turns that conviction into experience. Translation: I love you, so I’m going to drag you into life until you remember how good it feels to be here.

This is why an ESFP’s “I love you” often sounds like:

  • “You’ve been stuck inside too long, let’s go somewhere beautiful.”
  • “You don’t have to act like everything’s fine with me.”
  • “You looked sad, so I brought snacks and chaos.”

They show love in laughter, in spontaneous adventures, in the way they make space for you to be your unfiltered self. When they care, they want you to feel free.

Real life looks like this:

  • They pull you out of your gloom and into something real: sunlight, music, motion.
  • They see your spark and fan it back to life with contagious enthusiasm.
  • They share their most vulnerable stories so you know it’s safe to be human.
  • They pay attention to your joy — the food, the playlist, the atmosphere — and quietly recreate it when you need it most.

Their feeling side says, “Be yourself, I’ll meet you there.” Their sensing says, “And let’s make it unforgettable while we’re at it.” Together, they love in color — laughter, touch, sound, the warmth of belonging you can actually feel.

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Susan Storm

Susan Storm is a certified MBTI® practitioner and Enneagram coach. She is the mom of five children and loves using her knowledge of personality type to understand them and others better! Susan has written over 1,000 articles about typology as well as four books including: Discovering You: Unlocking the Power of Personality Type, The INFJ: Understanding the Mystic, The INTJ: Understanding the Strategist, and The INFP: Understanding the Dreamer. Find her at Psychology Junkie.