How Romantic Are You? The 16 Personality Types, Ranked
Ah, romance… candlelit dinners, moonlit beach walks, sweet surprises that make your heart skip a beat. It’s what we tend to picture when we think of romance, right? But not everyone does romance the same way. Some people go all in with big, dramatic gestures, while others prefer more subtle, quiet expressions of love that might not seem romantic at all.
In this article, we’re ranking each of the 16 Myers and Briggs personality types based on how romantic they are (in the conventional sense). Read on to find out which romantic gestures you can expect from your significant other this Valentine’s Day!
1. INFP: The Ultimate, Die-Hard Romantic
You, INFPs are the ultimate, die-hard romantics. For you, romance isn’t about quick flings or puppy love—it’s about having a soulmate who matches your vision of what love should be. But even though your feelings run deep, your romantic gestures are more subtle than grandiose. You are more likely to write a heartfelt poem or curate a playlist of songs that are special to you as a couple than go for the flashy displays of Insta-romance.
2. ISFJ: The Classic Romantic
Traditionalist ISFJs excel at “classic” romance like no other personality type: think candlelit dinners, walks on a moonlit beach and timeless proposals, down on one knee. You listen to your partner and remember the little things about them. So, you might surprise them with a gift that shows you’ve been paying attention—maybe buying them a piece of jewelry that caught their attention weeks ago or taking them to that restaurant they wanted to try, even if they only mentioned it in passing.
3. INFJ: The Deep, Spiritual Lover
Like INFPs, INFJs are big on falling head-over-heels in love, and you have no reservations when it comes to showing it. However, your version of romance has a bit more of a spiritual or philosophical vibe. Your expressions of affection are profound and may sometimes be communicated in ways that your partner may not see as much at first. For example, you might give them a gift that holds deep symbolic meaning—like a memento that represents a significant moment in your relationship—or an inside joke between the two of you.
4. ENFP: The Passionate, Enthusiastic Heart
ENFPs are deeply passionate and don’t shy away from expressing love, often doing it in impulsive and over-the-top ways. For example, you might surprise your partner by splurging on a spontaneous getaway or just an impromptu date doing something exciting you’ve never done before. For you, romance is about keeping things fresh and exciting and you'll go out of your way to keep the fizzle alive.
5. ISFP: The Quiet, Artistic Romantic
You, ISFPs, bring a quiet, understated kind of romance to your relationships. Even though you experience deep emotions, you don’t tend to wear them on your sleeve. That’s why, instead of over-the-top displays, your affection is shown in subtle, creative ways that may seem understated to others but that say a lot. For example, you might put together a photo album with your best memories as a couple or even create something handmade for your partner.
6. ENFJ: The Thoughtful, Nurturing Partner
While ENFJs appreciate classic romance like flowers and nice dinners, your romantic style is more about thoughtful and personal gestures that make your partner feel truly seen and understood. For example, you might plan a surprise that fulfills a dream they’ve mentioned like organizing a trip to a destination they've always wanted to visit, or get them a gift that helps them move them closer to their goals.
7. ESFJ: The Caring, Show-Not-Tell Romantic
For ESFJs, love is all about meaningful actions rather than just sweet words or flashy gestures. Plus, your knack for noticing and remembering the little things makes you great at showing your partner how much you love and cherish them. For example, you might organize a weekend getaway, planning every detail to make sure everything is just the way they like it, or just pay attention to the little things—like how they like their pillows arranged—and then incorporate those touches into your daily life.
8. ESFP: The Impulsive, Spontaneous Lover
You, ESFPs are the type who truly embodies the “live in the moment” philosophy. That’s why you’re more about passionate and impulsive acts of love rather than classical, pre-planned romantic gestures. Whether it’s by pulling your partner into a spontaneous dance in the kitchen or giving them a passionate kiss in the middle of a crowded space, you don’t have any reservations when it comes to expressing your bursts of affection.
9. ENTJ: The Strategic and Intentional Partner
While ENTJs may not be the most romantic in the conventional sense—grand, poetic declarations are not your thing—romance with you feels deliberate and purposeful. You might just straight-up ask your partner what they want or like and then plan something that fits perfectly with their vibe. For example, you might ask them about their dream vacation and then plan every detail to make sure it’s exactly what they wanted.
10. ISTP: The Fun and Adventurous Lover
Traditional romance, like cute presents or lovey-dovey words, is not you at all, ISTP. You’re all about the action and connection, not the theatrics. That’s why you tend to show affection by organizing activities you can do together—like taking on an adrenaline-pumping experience or just doing something that engages your senses and brings you closer, such as cooking a special dinner or renovating your apartment together.
11. ESTP: The Bold, Spontaneous Lover
Like your introverted counterpart (ISTP), you, ESTP, are all about action and being in the present moment. That’s why, when it comes to romance, you’re more about creating fun experiences that get the adrenaline going and keep things fresh. For example, you might surprise your partner with a spontaneous trip to a place neither of you has been before or snag tickets to see a band you both love.
12. ENTP: The Playful, Cheeky Lover
As an ENTP, you approach romance with creativity and exploration—so, forget cliché romantic gestures like flowers or candlelit dinners. Instead, you might show your affection through organizing quirky, unconventional dates and arranging impromptu outings that keep things exciting. And when it comes to expressing your feelings, you're less about the sappy stuff and more about playful teasing and flirty banter.
13. INTJ: The Thoughtful and Reliable Partner
As an INTJ, you’re one of the least likely types to get all mushy and shower your partner with flowers or gifts for no reason. That’s just not how you roll, because for you, a relationship is more about partnership, shared goals and mutual respect. Romance? Overrated. However, if you're in love, you’ll show it through your reliability and thoughtfulness—you'll remember the details of what your partner wants in life and do what you can to help them achieve it. It’s not exactly the stuff from rom-coms, but that’s the INTJ’s brand of love and, honestly, it’s kind of impressive—and a rare find at that!
14. INTP: The Thoughtful, Intellectual Lover
As an INTP, romance isn’t really your thing, but it doesn’t mean that you don’t put effort into making your partner feel special. You do. You just go about it in your own analytical, mind-first way—just like with everything you do, really. For example, you might read their favorite book or dive into the rabbit hole of research on a topic they’re passionate about so that you can discuss it with them. Effort? Absolutely. Romance? Well, let’s just say you have a unique interpretation of the concept.
15. ESTJ: The Practical, Reliable Supporter
While you're deeply dedicated and loyal in your relationships, ESTJs, romance doesn’t come naturally to you. Frankly, you don’t really see the point in it. After all, you’re a pragmatist at heart, so your way of showing love is more about practical, tangible stuff. You might, for example, plan a perfectly organized vacation or just handle all the logistics of your life together. Because who needs romance when your utility bills are always paid on time and your home is always in order, right?
16. ISTJ: The Mature, Dependable Partner
ISTJs find the sappy romantic stuff unnecessary at best and downright uncomfortable and awkward at worst. The whole idea of moonlit beach walks or Valentine’s Day postcards probably makes you cringe a little. Like ESTJs, your expressions of care and affection are more quiet and practical, like paying attention to details and taking care of everyday responsibilities and ensuring everything is organized and in place with your partner. It’s not the stuff of Hallmark movies, but your dependability makes you a solid, reliable partner who will always have your loved one’s back.
