Lovesick Texts You Should (And Shouldn’t) Send on Valentine’s Day, Based on Your Myers-Briggs Type
Valentine’s Day brings out the romantic—or impulsive—side in all of us. For some, it’s the perfect excuse to send that heartfelt text you’ve been debating for weeks, the one that you hope will rekindle an old romance or at least give you some closure.
For others, the pressure of the day might lead to sending something… let’s just say, regrettable.
So, let’s dig in and analyze the types of lovesick texts you should (and shouldn't) send on February 14th, all based on your Myers and Briggs personality type.
INFP: A Heartfelt Confession
You, INFPs, are the ultimate hopeless romantics. You tend to really take your time when it comes to letting go of someone you once shared something special with. You also wear your heart on your sleeve, so your lovesick text will likely be vulnerable and dripping with nostalgia, reflecting your longing for reconnection.
What you might send:
"Hey, it’s Valentine’s Day, and I just wanted to say… I miss you. A lot."
Is it a good idea?
No. This text will open you up for too much vulnerability, especially if the other person doesn’t feel the same way. Give yourself time to reflect and gain clarity before reaching out. Remember, there’s a reason the relationship ended. It’s important to honor that.
INTP: A Nonchalant Icebreaker
INTPs rarely dwell on feelings, so if you’re reaching out on Valentine’s Day, it means you’re really, really lovesick. But instead of directly expressing your feelings, you’re more likely to concoct some excuse—like claiming you “forgot” something at your ex’s place— as a subtle way to test the waters while avoiding vulnerability.
What you might send:
"Hey, totally random, but do you still have that book I lent you? No rush, just might need it for something soon."
Is it a good idea?
Yes, but only if you’ll be okay with a casual response. Be prepared for the possibility that your ex won’t read between the lines—or might not respond at all. So, if the goal is to rekindle something, a more direct follow-up might eventually be necessary.
ISFP: A Longing Plea
ISFPs are deeply emotional and artistic so your lovesick text will likely come from a place of unresolved feelings and deep longing for reconnection. You might lean into your poetic side, even if it’s a little risky.
What you might send:
"Hey, I’ve been thinking about the way we used to spend Valentine’s day. It still feels like the pieces of my heart are missing, and I wonder if you ever think about me too?"
Is it a good idea?
Maybe not. While beautifully heartfelt, this kind of text can come off a bit too intense, especially if both parties are still processing the breakup. Save these emotions for your journal or a trusted friend.
ISTP: A Casual Check-In
Your low-key and no-nonsense attitude definitely carries over into your Valentine Day’s text, ISTP. You’re not one for big, emotional declarations, so your lovesick message will likely just test the waters with minimal risk.
What you might send:
"Hey, long time no talk. How’ve you been?"
Is it a good idea?
Yes, if you’re OK with whatever happens next. Be prepared for an equally nonchalant response—or none at all. But if you're hoping for more than a casual catch-up, you’ll probably need to drop the chill act and be more direct (and vulnerable).
INFJ: A Closure Text
If there’s one type that can’t move on without fully understanding why a relationship ended, it’s definitely you, INFJ. So, if you reach out to an ex on February 14th, it’s probably because you’re seeking closure. Valentine’s Day might stir up some old feelings, and your text will likely reflect your desire to make sense of how and why things ended.
What you might send:
"Hey, it’s Valentine’s Day, and I was just thinking about the last one we spent together. Hope you’re doing well. Do you ever think about how things ended between us?"
Is it a good idea?
It depends. If enough time has passed and closure is what you’re really after, this could help bring some clarity. But if you're still holding onto feelings for them, reconnecting might just reopen old wounds.
INTJ: A Direct Invitation
As the ultimate strategists, you, INTJs, are unlikely to reach out to your ex unless there’s a clear purpose. If you’re sending a Valentine’s text, it’s not lovesick—it’s calculated. You’re testing the waters and exploring the possibility of rekindling the relationship.
What you might send:
"I know it’s been a while, but I was thinking about you today. If you’re open to it, I’d love to catch up sometime."
Is it a good idea?
Yes, but only if you’re genuinely interested in reconciliation and believe the timing is right. INTJs don’t do casual, so don’t send it unless you’ve thought it through and are 100% sure that you really mean it.
ISFJ: A Well-Wishing Text
For sentimental and caring ISTPs, your text might come from a place of wanting to check in and express heartfelt wishes—even if you don’t have any intention to rekindle things. You just want them to know you’re thinking of them and hope they’re doing well.
What you might send:
"Hi. I just wanted to say I was thinking about you today. I hope you’re happy and surrounded by love. It's Valentine's day after all, and you deserve it."
Is it a good idea?
Probably not. While sweet and well-meaning, this kind of text could send mixed signals. Unless you’re hoping to rekindle something, it’s better to keep these thoughts to yourself.
ISTJ: A Practical Proposal
When an ISTJ sends a lovesick text on Valentine’s Day, it’s definitely not on a whim. If you're reaching out to someone you’ve been involved with romantically, it’s because you've carefully considered it. The text you send is going to be thoughtful, direct and with a clear purpose in mind.
What you might send:
"Happy Valentine’s Day. I hope you’re doing well. I admit today made me think of you. Would you like to reconnect and meet up sometime?"
Is it a good idea?
Yes, if you’ve had enough time to process things and are sure you want to reconnect. This text is respectful and to the point, so it gives your ex space to decide without feeling pressured. Just be ready for any kind of response—or none at all.
ENFP: A Passionate Plea
ENFPs are all about passion and big emotions, so when it comes to lovesick texts, you can get a little carried away. If you're sending your past flame a text on Valentine’s Day, it’s likely to be deeply heartfelt, filled with nostalgia and longing.
What you might send:
"Hey, I know it’s been a while, but I really miss you. Hasn’t been a day I haven't thought about you since we broke up. Do you ever think about me like I think about you?"
Is it a good idea?
Maybe not. As much as it comes from the heart, this type of message will likely come on a little too strong. You might want to tone it down a bit and keep things a little lighter—just to gauge whether they’re on the same page first.
ENTP: A No-Strings-Attached Invitation
When sending a lovesick text, you, ENTPs, are likely to be playful and flirty—maybe even with a touch of humor. You want to reconnect, but you’re not here for anything too serious right away. You just want to test the waters and see where things go.
What you might send:
"Hey, gorgeous! It’s been ages since I’ve seen that cute face of yours! Wanna catch up this weekend?”
Is it a good idea?
Maybe, but only if you’re sure the other person is on the same playful, no-strings-attached wavelength. If they’re the type to dwell on things or expect something more serious, it’s probably best to let them be.
ESFP: A Flirty Check-In
For you ESFP, Valentine’s Day is all about the vibe. If you’re missing someone, it’s less about seeking a deep reconnection and more about reigniting that spark of fun and passion you once shared. So, your text will probably be upbeat, enthusiastic—and a little bit flirty!
What you might send:
"Hey, happy Valentine’s Day! If you’re free sometime this week, maybe we can catch up and have some fun like old times!"
Is it a good idea?
Yes, but only if things ended on good terms. Just keep in mind, if the other person’s not on the same wavelength, they might not respond, or it could turn into more of a friendly catch-up than anything romantic.
ESTP: A Bold, Flirty Text
If ESTP is sending a lovesick text, it’s likely to be bold, direct and playful. You might throw a little humor in there to lighten the mood but, at the core, you’re testing the waters and seeing if there’s potential for reconnection.
What you might send:
"Hey, stranger. Been a minute, huh? If you're free tonight, how about we catch up over drinks? No pressure, just want to see if you're as fun as I remember. "
Is it a good idea?
Yeah, if the breakup was amicable and you’re looking for a low-stakes, light-hearted reconnection. But if you’re hoping for something more serious, you might want to dial it back a bit and be more straightforward.
ENFJ: A No-Drama Check-In
ENFJs are natural diplomats, so your texts tend to avoid drama. If you’re sending a lovesick text on Valentine’s Day, it will likely be heartfelt and sincere without coming on too strong. You’ll check in, express that you’ve been thinking about them, and maybe offer a little nudge toward reconnection, but always with respect for their feelings and space.
What you might send:
"Hi, I’ve been thinking about you today, and I just want to say that I value the time we spent together, even though things have ended. No pressure, just wanted to reconnect if you’re open to it."
Is it a good idea?
Yes, but only if you truly intend to reconnect in a romantic way. If not, this kind of text might send mixed signals. If your intention is to reconnect as friends, it’s better to be clearer about that upfront, so they don’t misinterpret it as something more.
ENTJ: A No-BS, Lovesick Text
As an ENTJ, you’re not the type to drag things out or waste time second-guessing how someone feels about you. If you decide to reach out on Valentine’s day, it’s because you’ve made up your mind—you want to rekindle things. Your text will be direct, clear and to the point—no fluff, just a simple "yes or no" type of thing.
What you might send:
"Hey, it’s Valentine’s day. I just want to say that I regret that things have ended between us, and that I want to reconnect. Are we on the same page?”
Is it a good idea?
Yes. ENTJs don’t waste time, so if you’ve decided to send this kind of message, it’s probably because you’re ready for any kind of outcome.
ESTJ: A No-Game-Playing Invitation
When practical and decisive ESTJs decide to send a lovesick text, they’re looking for clarity or closure—not just expressing empty sentiment or seeking casual reconnection. Your text will be straightforward and to the point. No games, no ambiguity.
What you might send:
"Happy Valentine’s Day. I’ve been thinking a lot about what happened between us, and I’d like to reconnect if you’re open to it."
Is it a good idea?
Yes, especially if you’ve been reflecting on the relationship and are clear about your intentions. Just be prepared for any kind of response, including one that might not lead to reconciliation.
ESFJ: A Warm, Caring Check-In
As an ESFJ, you truly care about the people in your life—even your exes or past flames. So, if you’re sending a lovesick text on Valentine’s Day, it’s likely coming from a place of warmth and genuine concern, rather than pure romantic longing.
What you might send:
"Hey, happy Valentine’s Day! I hope life’s been treating you kindly, and I just want you to know that I’m here for you if you ever need anything, even though we’re not together anymore."
Is it a good idea?
It’s a sweet gesture, but it could easily send mixed signals, especially if the breakup was recent or if you're not looking to reconnect romantically. If you don’t want to risk giving them the wrong idea, it’s best to keep things light and make sure your intentions are clear.
