The Rudest Myers-Briggs Personality Types, Ranked
If you’ve ever been interrupted, dismissed, judged or just straight ignored in a conversation, you’ll be familiar with what the rudest personality types look and feel like in person. But whether that person is being intentionally rude or is just oblivious to social cues is another matter entirely. Every personality type has their own way of expressing themselves and their own expectations for how others should act. This leads to some interesting patterns of behavior with some personality types coming across as more rude, more direct and more blunt than others...whether they mean to or not!
From oversharers to one-uppers to outright insulters, here’s our pick of the rudest personality types.
INTJ: Rude Because They’re Right (And Certain About It)
Serious and matter-of-fact, INTJs are extremely confident of their own intelligence. They don’t take any prisoners and often present their ideas in a blunt way that doesn’t leave any room for doubt. If they don’t agree with you, they’ll tell you. Got an INTJ friend? Get used to hearing “You’re wrong” or “That’s dumb” on an almost daily basis. It’s okay, they love you really.
ENTJ: Rude Because They Always Say What They Think
While ENTJs are good at charming a crowd and getting their own way, a lot of people would call ENTJs extremely rude. Why? ENTJs are direct. They don’t hold back their opinions and will often tell you exactly what they think. For some people, this can seem brash, disrespectful, impolite and even verbally aggressive. As an ENTJ myself, I’ve seen this in action too many times and it is awkward! I’m sorry, I was honestly just telling you what I think…
ISTP: Rude Because They Don’t Follow Social Norms
ISTPs prefer to spend time alone, especially when they’re working on something important, and choose their friends very carefully. They can come across as insensitive or irritable around new people, especially if they’re preoccupied with a current project. This personality type might walk away mid sentence or interrupt you to ask you a direct question because they want to get straight to what they’re after. It’s nothing personal, they’re just focused on something and everything else fades into the background.
ESTP: Rude Because They’re Not Thinking About Your Feelings
ESTPs are playful, quick and ready for anything. This makes them great to be around... but not if you need them to be sensitive or emotionally supportive. ESTPs can be quite blunt when it comes to expressing themselves, and can offend more sensitive types without realizing it. They don't stop to think if they’re being rude or not, they’re having too much fun, and they won’t know they’ve done anything wrong until it’s too late.
ESFP: Rude Because They Want to Be the Center of Attention
An ESFP's favorite place to be is at a party full of people. They’re friendly, fun-loving and sociable, so they’re always at the center of the action. But ESFPs can be crazy rude if you’re not on their wavelength, especially if they see you as overly serious, logical or (in their eyes) boring. Be prepared for an ESFP to turn their back on you at a party and start talking to someone else who’ll give them the attention and adoration they crave… they’ll make it clear they’re not even a tiny bit sorry for being rude.
ENFP: Rude Because You’re Boring Them (Sorry)
When you meet an ENFP, your first impression will probably be positive. This personality type loves to talk about their dreams, inspiration and aspirations, even with complete strangers, and they’re imaginative and expressive communicators. But ENFPs are also easily distracted. They have a low bar for boredom, so watch out for yawns in your face, eye rolls and stares around the room as they try to find someone else to entertain them.
ENTP: Rude Because They Don’t Care Who They Offend
ENTPs live life in their own lane. They’re unconventional, inventive and love finding new ways to approach intellectual ideas. In a crowd, ENTPs will often try to impress people with their quick sense of humor. But to the wrong person, their wit and wordplay can sometimes offend, especially if they’re poking fun at you or making you the butt of their jokes. Yikes.
ESTJ: Rude Because They’re Judging You (A Lot)
Efficient and organized, ESTJs are known for holding themselves—and others—to high standards. They don’t want to be rude, but they are extremely disciplined and have a strong sense of duty. They want everyone around them to behave how they think they should be behaving and can’t help but point out when someone falls short. Think judgey comments, eyebrow raises and a face like they’re sucking on a sour lemon.
INFJ: Rude Because They’ll Block You (With No Warning)
As one of the most empathetic personality types, you’d think that INFJs would not have a rude bone in their body. But they have a tendency to protect themselves from potential hurt by cutting people off or ignoring them completely (the infamous INFJ door slam). They can become cold and closed off when they’re pushed too far, shutting off friendships and blocking people out of their lives with no explanation. They may seem friendly now but they’ll ghost you in the blink of an eye. You’ve been warned.
INTP: Rude Only When They Push and Overshare
INTPs hate small talk. They’re concerned with understanding life in all its complexity, not finding out what you ate for dinner last night. Because of this, INTPs can be overly pushy and personal, trying to get you to go deeper into a topic. They’re also major oversharers. You’ll learn about their darkest fears, their biggest dreams, and their deepest emotions, all while standing in line at the grocery store. When an INTP is in the mood to share, there’s really no stopping them.
ESFJ: Rude When You’re Not ‘Their Sort Of Person’
Politeness comes naturally for ESFJs. They’re sensitive, caring and attentive to the needs of others, so you’re unlikely to find ESFJs being rude. But they can be judgemental of people who don’t fit their strict code of manners and social etiquette. Are they rude if you don’t follow their rules? I’d say yes.
INFP: Occasionally Rude Because They Don’t Follow Your Rules
There is a tendency for INFPs to want to be original and idiosyncratic in everything they do. They’re non-judgemental and place a lot of weight on authenticity, accepting people for their beliefs without question. This means INFPs often come across as relaxed and accepting, but they can be surprisingly rebellious. An INFP may break your rules or take things too personally just to show that they don’t care what anyone else thinks.
ISTJ: Rude When They’re A Bit Too Logical
Practical, methodical and dependable, ISTJs are a safe pair of hands. In social situations, this personality type is most likely to be found being helpful and hands-on, such as carrying heavy bags, doing the dishes and holding open doors. They can often come across as serious and logical, but they’re seldom rude.
ISFP: Their Distance can Seem Rude (But It Isn’t)
Known for being gentle and unassuming, ISFPs live their lives in the present moment. They tend to be positive and enthusiastic, quietly getting on with their own projects and tasks, exploring the many experiences on offer around them. If you don’t know an ISFP well, they can come across as distant or uncommunicative, but they’re typically tolerant, patient and polite.
ISFJ: Well mannered and rarely rude
At the heart of the ISFJ personality type is a respect for rules. They are wedded to tradition and the ‘old way’ of doing things, including manners and decorum. ISFJs tend to be humble, unpretentious and hardworking, preferring to work behind-the-scenes to achieve their goals. They’re not rude or showy at all.
ENFJ: Rude because they thought you were rude first…
Above all else, ENFJs want close, meaningful connections. They tend to be excellent communicators and natural teachers, approaching people and the world with a warm, open energy. The result? They’re very rarely rude, except when they feel like they’ve been wronged. Be nice to them, and they'll be some of the kindest people you’ll ever meet.
