The Valentine’s Date They’ll Actually Love (According to Their Myers-Briggs Personality)
Cupid’s countdown is officially on! Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and if the only plan you’ve made so far involves a card and some grocery store roses, don’t panic—there’s still time to pull off something amazing.
If you really want to sweep them off their feet, the trick is to plan a date that feels like it was made for them. Your partner’s Myers-Briggs type is basically a cheat sheet to what makes them feel loved, seen and swoony, and this guide will help you turn that into a Valentine’s they’ll actually remember.
INFP: Keep It Intimate and Meaningful
Spoiler: INFPs aren’t impressed by flashy grand gestures. You can ditch the crowded restaurant, and go for something low-key and heartfelt. Think of a home-cooked meal with their favorite dishes and plenty of time to get into deep and meaningful chats. Show you “get” them by adding in touches, like fairy lights and candles or a playlist of songs that tell your love story.
ENFP: Take Them On A “Wow, We’re Really Doing This” Date
If your partner is an ENFP, Valentine’s Day is your chance to woo them with some “let’s make a memory tonight” energy. In other words, you need to plan an outside-the-box date that keeps these playful personalities on their toes! Think beyond the usual dinner-and-drinks routine and lean into fun firsts you can share together. Try ice skating followed by hot chocolate, a cooking class where you’re taste-testing each other’s creations, or tickets to a concert that has them dancing.
ISFP: Give Them A Soft, Whimsical Night
ISFPs are gentle, caring and secretly obsessed with little pockets of beauty in the world, so lean into that dreamy side when planning your date. Think of somewhere pretty and take them there, whether that’s a sunset walk in nature or a cozy wine bar with live music. Since they love rich sensory experiences, choose details that feel indulgent like a dessert tasting or a snack board built around their favorite flavors.
ESFP: Make It A Full-On Main-Character Moment
ESFPs live for good vibes and great people, and they want to be right in the middle of the action. So how about throwing a party or group hang in their honor where they can soak up all the attention? Bonus points if there are plenty of Instagram-worthy moments, like a DIY photo corner or a signature cocktail named after them.
INTP: Entice Them With a Mysterious Date
Curiosity runs through your INTP partner’s veins, and they are all about using logic to solve problems. This Valentine’s Day, look for events that give them the opportunity to put their mind to work. You could whisk them off for a history walk, for example, or visit an escape room. Just make sure the setting is low-key and not too over-stimulating.
ENTP: Curate a Night of “What Ifs”
Chances are, you’ve spent endless nights debating life’s big questions with your ENTP partner, and you know that run-of-the-mill ideas are a real snooze-fest for them. When planning a date, why not take them to see the latest thought-provoking movie, then end the night in a rooftop bar where you can keep the conversation going. They’ll be in their element when the night sparks new ideas and a little playful debate between you.
ISTP: Turn Date Night into a Shared Project
Your ISTP partner is happiest when they’re building something, fixing something, or figuring out how things work. Instead of the usual dinner reservation, plan a date that taps into their hands-on side and their hobbies. Try a pottery class or a cooking workshop, or go wild with go‑kart tuning or axe throwing! They’ll appreciate a night where you can both get a little messy and competitive.
ESTP: Don’t Stop Until You Drop
It doesn’t really matter what you do with your ESTP partner as long as you don’t force them to sit still for too long. We’re thinking “bar, another bar, club, activity”… etc. You name it, they will be up for it. Bonus points if you add a competitive element to the event like a round of darts or a game of pool.
INTJ: Prove You’ve Been Paying Attention
INTJs see right through the commerciality of Valentine’s day and an overpriced dinner date or bunch of roses will leave them feeling “meh.” If you really want to sweep them off their feet — and it’s not easy — you’re going to need to dig deep and remember something they’ve been dying to do. It could be a play they’ve hinted at, a niche museum they mentioned in passing, a lecture that taps into their latest rabbit hole, a weekend course that lets them dive deeper into a topic they love — anything that proves you’ve genuinely been paying attention.
ENTJ: Romance Them, But Make it Softer
ENTJs like to pretend they’re not into romance, but you know the truth. They love being wooed, but you have to do it the right way. Plan a self‑care day and make sure they actually switch off from their to‑do list, like a pampering session at a nearby spa or a thoughtful night away. Or surprise them with a reservation at the kind of restaurant they’d choose for a big win at work. That mix of softness and intention shows them you respect their standards as much as their feelings.
ISTJ: Time-travel Back to an Old-school Date
Your ISTJ partner longs for a simpler time when things were easy and people didn’t spend all day staring at screens. So give them what they really want this Valentine’s — an old-school date with a healthy dose of nostalgia that makes their heart soar. It doesn’t have to be hard. Why not cook a delicious meal at home, complete with candlelight and soothing music?
ESTJ: Take a Vacay From Everyday Life
ESTJs can be workaholics and need someone to gently pry them away from their responsibilities with a plan that’s taken care of for them. This Valentine’s Day, give them the gift of a fully planned “off-duty” day, whether that’s a simple, no‑work afternoon in the city or a night away where all they have to do is show up and enjoy.
INFJ: Make Them the Center of your World
Your INFJ partner thinks and feels deeply. But what they want the most is to be “seen” by you. Plan a date that puts your connection front and center and proves how well you know them, whether that’s a quiet dinner where you talk about your dreams or a personal gift that they’ve been wanting for months.
ENFJ: Lose Yourself in Sheer Romance
No matter what your ENFJ’s love style is, I guarantee they will enjoy spending quality time with you. When was the last time you two sat down and just talked? This Valentine’s Day, give them 100% of your attention. Get some roses, set the table, and get rid of all distractions. Start with some conversation cards, and see where the evening takes you. Lose yourself in each other… all over again.
ISFJ: For Once, Let It Be All About Them
Your ISFJ partner is a giver. They spend about 90% of their time thinking of others, and the other 10% feeling guilty for not thinking about others. They’re usually the one planning every birthday, holiday and date night, so this Valentine’s Day, flip the script and take the entire thing off their plate. Book their favorite restaurant for lunch, or take them away to a five-star hotel. Organize everything from the reservation to the transport home. Let them know that it’s okay to have some down time, and be truly spoiled.
ESFJ: Lean Into the Rom-Com Fantasy
Romance is kind of the ESFJ vibe, so don’t be scared to go for a classic date night. Think gorgeous flowers or luxury chocolates that will make your loved one swoon, followed by a reservation at their favorite restaurant where you’ve made sure to snag the best table in the house. Don’t forget to take plenty of snaps for Instagram so they can relive the moment later.
