What Kind of Mom You Are, Based on Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type
Here’s to the mothers. And a salute to those hands that change the diapers, make the beds, drive the carpools, find the matching socks, and make the ten-millionth peanut butter and jelly sandwich. It’s a sticky salute, but well-earned.
We love the by-the-book moms and the go-with-the-flow moms. The moms talking mile-a-minute to the adults in the room and the mom in the corner with eyes only for her firstborn. Whether a mom has herself pulled together right down to her polished toenails, or is lucky to pull on a pair of pants that fit before throwing her hair in a messy bun—again—there is no doubt that all moms are unique, priceless and (all right, I’ll say it) tired.
While parenting energies can vary within a single day depending on how much coffee has been administered, the following types are fair snapshots of motherhood styles according to the Myers and Briggs personality types.
What kind of mom are you?
ISTJ: The Boss Mom
ISTJ moms are rock solid. Their walls are festooned with color-coded sticker charts, tidy calendars, decorations for the upcoming holiday, and a list of people to call in an emergency and in which order to call them. Boss Mom can be strict and doesn’t like her authority questioned, but Boss Mom gets her duties done.
She’s the mom who keeps the family machine humming—forms are always turned in on time, the pantry is stocked, and bedtime is non-negotiable. While she may not always be the most outwardly affectionate, her love shows in practical, dependable ways: gas tanks filled, permission slips signed, and shoes always where they’re supposed to be. When chaos hits, Boss Mom is the calm center who holds everything together.
ESTJ: The PTA Mom
ESTJ mom lines her ducklings in a row and expects them to follow along behind her on the straight and narrow trail. The rules are there for a reason, but rather than leaning into strict discipline, the PTA Mom rewards decorum and encourages order in both the family and the events or companies she organizes. PTA Moms excel at providing structure and efficiency.
She’s also a powerhouse behind the scenes—organizing carpool groups, running fundraisers like a CEO, and making sure every soccer uniform is pressed and ready to go. Her confidence and take-charge attitude make her the go-to for other moms in a crisis, and while she may run a tight ship, her loyalty and protective nature make her a fierce advocate for her kids and community.
ISFJ: The Helicopter Mom
ISFJ moms make sure everyone’s needs are met, going above and beyond to create a safe and nurturing home base. This nurturing mom is authoritarian but compassionate, setting a child up for success and encouraging them to grow, build and expand on their firm foundations.
She’s the mom who stays up late baking cookies for the class party and then double-checks that her child’s water bottle is still cold. Her hovering comes from a place of deep care—she wants to remove every obstacle in her child’s path. While she may need to learn to let go as her kids grow, her steady presence and constant emotional support give them a lifelong sense of security.
ESFJ: The Yes Mom
ESFJ moms value their children’s opinions and weigh them equally with adults when making decisions for the family. Yes Mom overextends on the regular, making sure everyone’s emotional and physical needs are met, supporting and guiding her children. Routines, gossip, and a high level of engagement with everyone around her are the hallmark of the Yes Mom.
She thrives on connection and is often the heart of the family’s social life—arranging birthday parties, weekend plans, and playdates with the same enthusiasm she brings to decorating for the holidays. Her openness and warmth make her children feel seen and heard, though she sometimes needs to be reminded to set boundaries and prioritize her own needs, too.
INFJ: The Photographer Mom
INFJ moms support the potential and individuality of each child. They take the time to listen and support the emotional needs of their kids. Photographer Mom presents a multitude of unique experiences and encourages them to express their own interests, all the while with her finger on the camera button.
She's the mom quietly documenting the magic of everyday moments—muddy hands in the garden, sleepy post-nap cuddles, a scribbled drawing proudly displayed on the fridge. Behind her lens is a deep desire to preserve her children's inner worlds and emotional milestones. Her gentle intuition helps her anticipate needs before they're spoken, making her presence feel like a safe haven for her kids’ dreams and vulnerabilities.
ENFJ: The Nurturing Mom
ENFJ moms are all about meaningful conversations and activities. They want to go deeper with their kids’ thoughts and keep all of their secrets. Warm, compassionate and charismatic, this mom seeks to connect with and understand her kids. This empath is regularly teasing growth from her children in the name of creating a better world.
Whether she's leading a family gratitude ritual at dinner or helping her child navigate playground politics, Nurturing Mom thrives on growth-minded guidance. She’s a natural coach and cheerleader, inspiring her children to reach their potential while ensuring they feel unconditionally loved. Sometimes she has to be reminded that it’s okay not to “fix” every feeling—but her kids will always know who to call when they need to talk.
INTJ: The Home-Schooling Mom
INTJ moms think strategically and love to solve challenges. Parenting is just another possibility puzzle. This mom not only encourages problem-solving skills but also provides resources, plans, and follow-through support. This mom will help her kids mastermind their way to success.
She’s always thinking ten steps ahead—whether that’s designing a personalized curriculum or encouraging her child’s science fair project to reach national competition levels. Home-Schooling Mom isn’t afraid to challenge the status quo if it doesn’t align with her vision. Though she may seem reserved, her loyalty runs deep, and she fiercely protects her child’s autonomy, intellect, and individuality.
ENTJ: The Tiger Mom
ENTJ moms encourage leadership, independence, and ambition while demonstrating the concepts through their own lifestyles. Assertive and rule-oriented, the Tiger Mom will rock a trip to Disneyland with a killer agenda. Her kids aren’t asked for input once her mind is made up, but they reap the rewards of her motivated visions.
Efficiency is her love language, and she’s the master of turning family life into a well-oiled machine that runs on achievement and hustle. Tiger Mom doesn’t believe in excuses, but she does believe in her kids’ potential—and she’ll do everything in her power to help them rise to it. While her high expectations can be intense, she also teaches resilience, determination, and the thrill of earning your own success.
ISTP: The Pajama Mom
ISTP moms want their kids to take chances and have fun, live in the now and make memories. This mom tends to have a “hands off” style of parenting, planning experiences that allow freedom to explore both the environment and whatever questions pop into their heads. She likes to talk things out and answer the whys of life, but if she’s caught in her jammies, she’ll just laugh and keep moving.
She’s the mom who can fix a broken toy with duct tape, build a fort from scratch, or show her kids how to make a fire on a camping trip—without breaking a sweat. Her cool, unbothered vibe gives kids the confidence to try new things and figure stuff out for themselves. Pajama Mom doesn’t need to hover—she trusts her children to learn by doing and is always ready with practical advice when they ask.
ESTP: The Social Butterfly Mom
ESTP moms make waves. Spontaneous and playful, this mom bounces, trying new things, meeting new people, and making new friends for her children. The Social Butterfly isn’t worried about routines or structure, choosing instead to fill her child’s world with wonder.
She’s always down for a last-minute road trip, an impromptu science experiment in the kitchen, or turning the living room into a dance party. This mom lives for the thrill of the moment and wants her kids to experience life to the fullest. While she may sometimes forget to sign the permission slip, she’s teaching her kids courage, curiosity, and how to thrive in the unexpected.
ISFP: The Hippie Mom
ISFP moms have essential oils in the house, alternative music choices in the room, and keep their options open. Creative and sensitive, Hippie Mom has a quiet, gentle, and low-key approach to parenting that encourages self-expression and imagination through the arts. This wallflower mom lets her kids wear whatever they want.
She’s more likely to show love through a handmade gift or a peaceful nature walk than through lectures or rules. Her home is a sanctuary of calm vibes, cozy corners, and quiet encouragement. While she may shy away from confrontation, her deep emotional presence helps her children feel free to be exactly who they are.
ESFP: The Party Mom
ESFP moms have a revolving door on the house and love to watch it spin. This mom is going to host play dates, slumber parties, potlucks, open houses, and prom night. She is liable to already have future weddings planned. She enjoys entertaining and socializing with her children and expands their horizons accordingly.
She brings sparkle and spontaneity to everyday parenting, turning a Tuesday dinner into a themed family event just for fun. Her joy is contagious, and her kids often feel like life with Mom is one big celebration. Party Mom thrives in a crowd and teaches her children the value of connection, presence, and savoring the moment. Confetti optional (but encouraged).
INFP: The Daydreamer Mom
INFP moms are idealists and tend to focus on the future instead of the present. Leaning into understanding and emotional support, Daydreamer Mom is engaged and playful. She encourages her kids to explore their passions and be true to themselves. This mom is all about creating a happy and harmonious home.
She’s the mom who gets misty-eyed during bedtime stories and leaves love notes tucked into lunchboxes with hand-drawn hearts. Her kids feel deeply seen and unconditionally accepted, even when they're still figuring out who they are. While Daydreamer Mom might lose track of time or forget where she put the soccer cleats, she’s never too busy to talk about a dream, a feeling, or a beautiful idea.
ENFP: The Cheerleader Mom
ENFP moms let their kids help in the kitchen, regardless of the mess left behind. They bring energy and enthusiasm to parenting, encouraging imagination and brainstorming the next big project. Cheerleader Moms encourage their kids to dream big and reach for the stars.
She’s the first to shout “you’ve got this!” before a big recital and the last one dancing at the kitchen dance party. Her parenting is powered by excitement, creativity, and heartfelt connection. While consistency might not be her strong suit, her love is loud, her encouragement endless, and her belief in her kids utterly unwavering.
INTP: The Curious Genius Mom
INTP moms are a bit detached with more of a “free range” parenting style. Intellectual discussions or debates, experimentation, and exploration are part of the family dynamics. This Curious Mom believes that less is more when it comes to stuff, but there’s always room for knowledge.
She’s the mom who turns a “why is the sky blue?” question into a full afternoon of research, diagrams, and maybe a home-built model. Curious Genius Mom gives her kids mental autonomy and respects their ability to think for themselves. While she may be less emotionally demonstrative, her love shines through in the way she teaches, listens, and gives her kids room to wonder.
ENTP: The Maverick Mom
ENTP moms teach their kids to make a difference in the world. Encouraging independent thought, the Maverick Mom leans into the areas of science or technology, and thrives on creating innovative change. She thinks on her feet but has her eye on a brighter future.
She’s often juggling five new ideas at once—today it’s composting, tomorrow it’s a prototype for a kid-invented board game. Maverick Mom doesn’t just raise rule-followers—she raises trailblazers. Her kids learn to question assumptions, speak up for what they believe in, and see possibility everywhere. While routine may be lacking, inspiration is never in short supply.
What Type of Mom Are You?
At the end of the day, there’s no one “right” way to be a mom, just as there’s no one right way to be a person. Whether you’re a schedule-loving Boss Mom, a spontaneous Party Mom, or a dreamy Daydreamer Mom, your personality shapes the way you love, guide, and show up for your children. The magic of motherhood lies in the unique strengths you bring to the table, whether it’s structure, creativity, ambition, or heart.
So here’s to all the moms doing it their way. May you find joy in the quirks that make you you, embrace growth where it’s needed, and remember that your presence, your style, and your love matter more than perfection ever could.
