Which Holiday Movie Heartthrob Is Your Perfect Myers-Briggs Match?

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I'm sure you have your favorite. Maybe it's Mark Darcy from Bridget Jones's Diary or Graham from The Holiday (I mean, who wouldn't swoon over Jude Law in tiny little glasses?). But which heartthrob would actually be your perfect match in real life? Let's dive into the personality science behind the swoon and discover your true holiday movie soulmate. Several of you are going to end up with the Grinch. Don’t blame me, I don’t make the rules.

INFP and Buddy the Elf from Elf

The INFP-INFJ pairing is the classic soulmate match. You, INFP, are an idealistic romantic who believes the world could be better if people were just a little kinder to each other. Buddy gets this on a cellular level. He's an INFJ through and through — empathetic to a fault, sees the best in literally everyone.

Buddy would never mock your seventeen journals or the fact that you cried during a dog food commercial. He'd probably cry with you. Together, you'd be that couple who believes love can save the world and who has deep conversations about the meaning of snowflakes that make your friends wonder if you're okay.

INTJ and Daniel Cleaver from Bridget Jones’s Diary

Daniel Cleaver is textbook ENTJ: ambitious, strategically brilliant, treats banter like an art form. He's direct, professionally ruthless, and his idea of flirting involves intellectual sparring that would make most people cry. Yes, he's morally questionable, but then again, nobody’s perfect. 

Daniel would appreciate your refusal to follow societal expectations, and he’d match your hallmark INTJ dry observations with equally cutting wit. Together, you’d be the couple discussing world domination over a cup of coffee. Your perfect date involves competing to deliver the most devastating one-liner while critiquing everyone else's life choices. 

INFJ and Graham from The Holiday

The INFJ-ISFJ couple has that “complementary opposites who balance each other beautifully” vibe. Graham is warm, dependable, tradition-oriented, and expresses love through practical acts of service. He's the guy who shows up with homemade shepherd's pie when you're having a rough day, not grand philosophical declarations about the nature of suffering.

As an INFJ, you're drawn to Graham's gentle steadiness even if his approach to life initially seems too grounded compared to your vision for transforming the world. He might not immediately grasp your abstract theories about human connection, but he'll patiently listen while making you tea. 

INTP and George Bailey from It’s a Wonderful Life

Being with George Bailey is like dating a snowstorm of enthusiasm: he swirls in, full of schemes for improvement, while you — ever the INTP — quietly run probability models in your mind. He adores that you actually listen to his tangents instead of glazing over like the rest of Bedford Falls. 

You both bond over ideas rather than feelings, which means your relationship is 90% fascinating debates and 10% remembering that emotions are a thing humans have. Half the time, you’re debating the philosophical implications of alternate timelines, with him enthusiastically talking over you while you're still formulating your counterargument.

ENFP and Jack Callaghan from While You Were Sleeping

Jack's the guy who shows up with coffee and actually remembers you take oat milk. He's got that steady, flannel-wearing charm that makes idealism feel possible instead of exhausting. He's not flashy about his values, but they run deep, which you find incredibly attractive.

You’re both NF types who bond over big dreams, so your first date might involve talking about how to fix systemic problems while walking shelter dogs. Jack matches your ENFP energy for spontaneous adventures and never makes you feel weird for caring so deeply about everything. The only challenge is that you’re both so busy cheering each other on that actual concrete plans sometimes fall through the cracks.

ENTJ and Santa from… Any Movie

Santa is jovial, caring and endlessly generous, but beneath the laughter and cookie breaks, he’s running a winter empire. He’s all about systems that work — organized, traditional, operating on a strict schedule and loyal to proven methods. You're the strategic visionary who immediately sees 12 ways to optimize his entire operation.

As an ENTJ, you're weirdly attracted to his competence and the fact that he built a company at the North Pole. He appreciates that you don't waste time with small talk and can actually keep up with his logistical demands. To you, romance is accomplishing more before breakfast on Christmas morning than most people do all year.

ENTP and the Grinch from How the Grinch Stole Christmas! 

Yes, he's the ultimate Christmas villain, but he's also strategic, wickedly intelligent, and his idea of a good time is engineering elaborate revenge plots. You'd be fascinated by the Grinch's cynical observations about holiday consumerism, and he'd actually enjoy your chaotic ENTP energy because you're one of the few people who can keep up with his weird tangential rants.

Your chemistry is arguing about societal constructs while his dog judges you both. Downside: you're both convinced you're right, neither of you does emotional vulnerability, and his idea of a romantic gesture is tolerating your existence. But he's brilliant, you make him laugh against his will, and you're probably gonna domesticate this man.

ENFJ and Tom from Last Christmas

This is a relationship between two people trying to out-nurture each other until one of them develops a sugar dependency. Tom's got that ENFP thing where he asks how you're doing and actually waits for the answer, which feels like a breath of fresh air after years of “I'm fine, but let's talk about YOU” redirect. His only flaw is that... well, you know. 

You're both operating on the same wavelength of aggressive idealism. For you ENFJ, seeing potential in people is a lifestyle choice;  for him, it’s a moral imperative. Together, you're either going to change the world or exhaust yourselves trying to manifest each other's best possible future. Your conversations skip straight into “what's your relationship with mortality” territory, which sounds intense but feels like coming home.

ISFJ and Clark Griswold from National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation

Clark Griswold is an ESFJ with the volume turned up to eleven. He's tradition-obsessed, family-focused, and absolutely convinced that this Christmas will be perfect if he just adds 25,000 more lights to the roof (never mind the citywide power outage). His heart's in the right place; his electrical planning is not.

As an ISFJ, you share his devotion to family traditions and creating the perfect holiday experience. You're just doing it through homemade cookies and thoughtfully wrapped presents. You appreciate his enthusiasm even when you're internally calculating fire hazards. The dynamic works because you both genuinely care about making memories; he's just loud about it. 

ISFP and Edward from Edward Scissorhands

The thing about Edward is he's completely honest in a way that would be brutal if it weren't so devoid of malice. He'll tell you your haircut doesn't work, then immediately fix it, because problem-solving through action is his love language. You appreciate this — you're tired of people who say supportive things but never actually help.

As an ISFP, you recognize a kindred artistic spirit who experiences the world through sensation and creativity rather than abstract concepts. Your ideal evening involves creating side-by-side in comfortable silence, occasionally sharing a glance that contains entire paragraphs. The relationship works because you both value authenticity over performance and understand that the deepest feelings don't always need words.

ISTJ and Mark Darcy from Bridget Jones’s Diary

Mark Darcy is peak INTJ dressed in British restraint: competent, principled, operating three steps ahead of everyone else, and completely baffled by why people can't just communicate directly. You get this immediately because you also think most social conventions are needlessly inefficient.

The two of you bond over shared contempt for chaos and a mutual appreciation for things that actually work. He respects your ISTJ commitment to structure and duty because he operates the same way, just with more theoretical frameworks and fewer references to “how things have always been done.” You're traditional; he's strategic. Together, you're the couple who color-codes their joint calendar and considers it foreplay.

ISTP and Ebenezer Scrooge from A Christmas Carol

Pre-ghost Scrooge is an ISTJ trapped in a rut carved by past disappointments, obsessed with efficiency and profit margins, and completely unable to see beyond what his ledgers tell him. But post-redemption Scrooge? He's integrated his emotions without losing his competence. He's still organized and efficient, but suddenly, he gets that life is meant to be lived, not just tallied.

As an ISTP, you appreciate that he'll plan Christmas dinner with military precision while respecting your need for hands-on projects and quiet time. You both value competence and hate wasted effort. He doesn't do small talk; you troubleshoot problems without needing a feelings workshop first. Together, you're the couple who can fix anything and actually enjoy reading instruction manuals.

ESFJ and Miles from The Holiday

While everyone's swooning over Graham, Miles doesn't get nearly enough credit for being emotionally intelligent without making it his entire personality. He's an INFP who actually has his life somewhat together, which is rarer than you'd think. As an ESFJ, you're drawn to his creativity and the fact that he notices when you're exhausted from being there for other people.

You bring practical warmth to his dreamy idealism — you make sure he eats actual food instead of surviving on artistic suffering and coffee fumes; he writes you a piano piece when you're sad, which is objectively better than flowers. The relationship works because he genuinely appreciates your caretaking instead of weaponizing it, and when you organize his creative chaos, he's grateful rather than claiming you've “murdered his muse.” 

ESFP and Jack Skellington from Nightmare Before Christmas 

ESFP and Jack Skellington (ISFP) are a match made in Halloween Town. He's artistic, spontaneous, and occasionally becomes so enchanted by shiny new concepts that he completely derails his own existence (and Christmas). You're both SP types who live for aesthetic experiences, except you bring the party and he brings the existential dread.

You'd be the chaos to his brooding poetry. He's fascinated by your ability to light up any room, and you appreciate that, beneath all the “what does it all mean” spiraling, he genuinely wants to create something beautiful. Together, you're throwing the most unhinged holiday parties Halloween Town has ever seen.

ESTJ and Harry Lyme from Home Alone

Look, I know what you're thinking: “You're pairing me with a criminal?” But we're talking about chemistry here, not necessarily someone you'd bring home to meet your very organized, color-coded family calendar.

Harry Lime is the quintessential ESTP: spontaneous, quick-thinking, living entirely in the moment (sometimes while dangling from a rope covered in tar and feathers, but that's beside the point). As an ESTJ with your perfectly structured holiday meal plan and labeled storage containers, you need someone who occasionally reminds you that chaos won't actually kill you.

The attraction is undeniable. You both speak the language of action over feelings. While you're running the world with five-year plans and contingency strategies, Harry's out here treating life like an improv class with questionable legality. It's infuriating. It's also kind of thrilling. Just maybe keep the silverware locked up on the first few dates.

ESTP and Billy Mack from Love Actually 

A washed-up rocker in leather pants promoting his Christmas comeback single by insulting everyone on live television? Yes, that’s Billy Mack. You two are kind of perfect together. Billy's the ultimate ESFP: spontaneous, emotionally expressive, living entirely in the moment with zero filter. You're basically the same person. It’s just that you, ESTP, have slightly better impulse control and a functioning sense of when to stop talking. 

You're both SP types who share one core philosophy: life is short, so let's have some fun. Neither of you is pondering the meaning of existence; you're too busy actually living it. Daily life would be gloriously disorganized — neither of you wants to do boring adult tasks, your place is a disaster zone, and you're perpetually double-booked. But you're having the time of your lives, and isn't that the point?

The Real Gift This Holiday Season

Whether you ended up with a reformed miser, a professional burglar, or literal Santa Claus himself, remember this: a relationship is like a Christmas tree — you need the sturdy trunk and strong branches as your foundation, but it's the lights, ornaments and tinsel that make it actually worth gathering around. Shared values and trust hold everything up, but it's the quirky differences and challenging moments that transform “functional” into “magical.”

So this holiday season, as you curl up with your favorite festive film, maybe look at your on-screen crush a little differently. That chemistry you feel? It might just be your personality type recognizing its perfect (or perfectly chaotic) match.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to go explain to several ESFJs why I didn't pair them with literally everyone.