The Hot Dating Trend You’re Most Likely to Follow This Year, Based on Your Enneagram

We’ve all been there: scrolling through the TikTok dating trends that Gen Z has invented and feeling jaded about ever finding love. But before you adopt five cats and declare yourself unmarriageable, try leaning into your Enneagram type. It will help you realize that maybe there’s still hope in this messy modern dating, and some trends could be pretty powerful because they vibe with you. 

Ones: Truecasting 

Truecasting is about being completely real and honest from the very beginning of a relationship. 

It involves presenting your genuine self on dating apps and first dates, without filters, facades or embellishments—no more pretending to love hiking just to score a second date. The goal is to avoid wasting time and quickly find a compatible match who is interested in the real you, not an idealized version. 

Why it works for you: As a One, trying to figure out someone’s mixed messages is more painful than having a root canal, and you’re not here for that. You get frustrated when dating doesn’t live up to your ideals of honesty and integrity, so the “I am who I am” approach of Truecasting appeals to you. You want to show up as you are, quirks included, and you’re drawn to people who are just as transparent about who they are and what they want. 

Twos: Chore-mancing 

Doing chores together (chore-mancing) doesn’t have the romance of a candlelit dinner, but it’s a surprisingly efficient way to learn who someone really is. Walking your dogs, prepping a meal together or picking up groceries reveal more about a person than a curated bio ever could. There’s a raw honesty to this type of dating—when you’re elbow deep in laundry, no one is performing or trying to impress.

Why it works for you: Twos want to be needed by others, and chore-mancing helps you show your value without coming on too strongly. When you collaborate with your date, even on something simple like chopping vegetables, it sparks a shared rhythm and feeling of teamwork. Laughing together over mundane tasks builds comfort and familiarity, which are the foundation of genuine chemistry for you.

Threes: Status Flexing 

Status flexing is the antidote to the fuzzy “we’re just seeing where things go” mindset that’s dominated the singles scene for the past few years—in this dating trend, you define the relationship with a clear label and status. There’s a catch, though: status flexing can involve  dating someone primarily for the “clout” the relationship provides, rather than for a genuine emotional connection. 

Why it works for you: You, Three, are drawn to people you can be proud of and who will make you look good, as you seek to be seen as a successful “power” couple. You also pay attention to tangible markers of success, such as a high-status relationship. Status flexing appeals to you because it feels like a win to present a successful relationship to the world.

Fours: Love-Loreing 

Conventional dating comes with a set of expectations and milestones, like defining the relationship after five dates or introducing your new love to your friend group by month two.  Love-loreing is the exact opposite. It involves going on a date with no expectations, just to see where the story leads.

Why it works for you: You love a plot twist in a rom-com, don’t you Four? Love-loreing is the real world equivalent—it lets you chase different experiences and explore your longing without getting trapped by rigid timelines. For you, the magic is in the unfolding, not just the happy ending. There’s always a sense that something deeper might be missing, and love-loreing helps you find it. 

Fives: Slow-Burn Matching 

Slow-burn matching means taking your time to build a romantic connection instead of Velcroing yourself to someone on the first date. You slow down and build anticipation, while enjoying the marathon texting sessions you only commit to in the excitement of discovering someone new and intriguing.​

Why it works for you: Fives thrive on depth—one amazing date a week feels far more satisfying, and takes less energy, than a string of mediocre daily interactions. You’re more interested in a meeting of minds than some short-lived spark. Slow-burning lets you indulge in curiosity and figure out if this person is right for you, in your own time. 

Sixes: Retromancing 

Retromancing involves nostalgia and going old-fashioned with dates. Daters take inspiration from their parents’ or grandparents’ love stories and make their date a home-cooked meal, write them a letter, or make them a mix tape. Retromancing encourages singles to slow down and savor each other, rather than getting sucked into the “experience” of dating.

Why it works for you:  Retromanaging is a slow and cute way to start a relationship, allowing both individuals time to get used to each other in a safe way. Too much pressure can sometimes trigger anxiety in type Sixes. Retromancing lets you relax into routines and rituals that feel familiar and trust the process instead of worrying if you’re doing it “right.” 

Sevens: Turbo Dating 

The exact opposite of slow-burn matching, turbo dating goes in fast but deep. From the very first date, you’ll skip the small talk and go straight to discussing your values, deal-breakers and previous relationships, fast-tracking you to emotional intimacy. It’s common for turbo daters to hit dating milestones faster, like expressing your feelings for each other after just a few dates. 

Why it works for you: Sevens live life on high speed so the “let’s cut to the chase” energy of turbo dating fits your craving for excitement and instant chemistry. Diving deep early lets you skip the tedious waiting and means you won’t lose interest before you get to the good stuff.​​

Feeling trapped is your number-one dating dealbreaker—with turbo dating, you move on just as quickly if they’re not a good fit.  

Eights: Chemrizztry 

Chemrizztry is when you catch feelings for someone outside of your usual type, simply because they have truckloads of charisma. You’re attracted to the person’s main character energy, even if they don’t fit your checklist or challenge you in the ways you expect. It’s a bit like love at first sight, only it’s powered by the force of someone’s magnetism.

Why it works for you: You, Eight, are drawn to people who can match your intensity and keep up with your energy. When you sense someone’s charisma, you see a worthy rival or partner—someone strong enough to earn your respect and stand toe-to-toe with you. Chemrizztry lets you dive straight into dynamic attraction with someone different and intriguing.

Nines: Fur-Casting 

Possibly the cutest trend on our list, fur-casting is when your dates are based around your mutual love of animals. Daters are looking for someone who is “pet-parent material,” and a date at a dog shelter or cat cafe is a perfect way to find someone who is kind and loving to animals, and hopefully will be an equally kind and loving partner.

Why it works for you: Low-key and low-pressure are ideal dating vibes for a Nine, and fur-casting helps you get to know each other without feeling like you’re in a job interview or having to be forceful about what you want. Animal-loving is shorthand for positive personality traits such as kindness, responsibility and loyalty, which are exactly the qualities that matter most to you when building a genuine connection.